OfflineOK! So I have a topic to discuss. I ran a family childcare center out of my home for the pass three years. I have taken the past three months off to move into my new home in the Holmen area. I am opening up at the end of the month. I have two children a 5 year old boy and a 3 year old daughter. My son is very active and sociable. He has been in daycare, with me with the daycare, preschool for speech, and a private preschool. He has no problems interacting with other children and making friends.
My daughter on the other hand is very shy. She was also in daycare and then home with me. I have also had a number of children at home so we always had children to play with. She was not shy with the kids and parents. Now that I have been off and going to local parks and the pool I have noticed that she won't go play unless I am with her or her brother goes with her. She won't even talk to someone if they come up to her when she is with me. At swim lessons she won't even hold hands for a circle song. In gymnastic class she is with her brother so she is a little bit different. We do have her going to dance class without her brother so we will see how she does with that. My husband isn't worried but I am little bit worried. Some have said to put her in a preschool to build her confidence up but I just don't know.
Any suggestions would be great.
Thanks Jessica
My oldest is only 2.5 and not shy so I don't have any "been there" advice. I was thinking, though, that maybe it could be from moving? Maybe all the change has made her a little unsure of things and so she feels more secure with the people who are still the same as what she's used to? I don't know that I'd put a child in preschool just for that reason... It sounds like you are doing things where she has a chance to socialize so it's not like she's just always at home and never seeing other kids. My gut feeling without knowing your daughter is to give her time to adjust to the move and see if she starts getting more sociable. If you come to MOMS Club events, there's a bunch more kids to interact with so that may help, too.
Good luck!
Michelle
Michelle
She was like this before the move. At parks she would wait for her brother to go or want me to go along with her. I can't see putting her in preschool either since I am at home with her and I do the same things that they would do in preschool. I have been getting her into more things since we moved so I hope that helps. My husband tells me that she takes a longer time to warm up to people.
Thanks Jessica
Ah, sorry, I misunderstood and thought this was new since the move. I wish there were more people posting... I don't have the experience to really give advice on this one. My 2.5 year old isn't shy at all. LOL!
I know some kids just are shy and they get over it after a while. I, personally, wouldn't worry too much yet since she's so young but that's just my gut feeling and not based on any sort of psychology education or anything. If you come to MOMS Club events, maybe she'll get used to seeing the same kids all the time and be better able to socialize.
Michelle
As long as you keep her socializing, she will be fine. I wouldn't push her, cause then she might get worse. However, setting up playdates, or like Michelle was saying, going to those "mom" events, might help her in the long run.
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